A Facebook Dilemna

There's a difference between people you know and people you would consider friends. I seem to have a lot of Facebook (many more then Myspace) friends that I know (or knew as it were), but have not necessarily ever spent time with. These are not people that were close to me at one time and place and we lost touch, I'm meaning people I may have had conversations with but were never actually close too. By adding these people to my social network, I kind of feel like a fraud. I'm not even sure why I accept. It's possibly nostalgia, or mild interest, or the sense of being kind. No one likes rejection, virtual or otherwise, but is that really my problem. I enjoy Myspace and Facebook as a vehicle for keeping in touch with friends and family I don't see as often as I would like. In a way they allow a person to still be part of someones life even if you live in totally different worlds.

The reason I'm bothered this morning is because I had an overwhelming number of notifications that one of my "friends" had become a fan of several strippers, (or at least guys who look like strippers.) I don't judge his predilections, but I find a constant stream of tasteless declarations annoying and I just don't care. It clogs my page so that I miss posts from people I care about and are of interest to me. I guess the bottom line is I find no desire to inflate my friends list with people I barely know and have no real connection. I have never had any interest in popularity contests, so why did I start now.

My true identity

I wear black on the inside. I wish I were a phlebotomist.

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/09/18/fashion/18GOTH.html

my very favorite exerpt:
"I once teased her about her decorative penchant for red velvet chaises, heavy curtains, ball-and-claw side tables, stigmata and other forms of morbid opulence, saying that they didn't necessarily mean she was goth, just Italian. She clocked me pretty hard."